She said "YES!"

I had a roommate. Only briefly....three week tops. She'd gone through a lot in 2007. Her bf, with whom she shared a home, informed her that he had rekindled a previous romance with a woman who was bi-curious and had offered to move in with them, be the "cook and the maid" and provide the level of kinky sex her bf, apparently, required. Of course, he was all for it and was stupid enough to think my friend would be as well.

She moved in with her friend the same night.

About three months later, she was laid off. She got another job, but it was horrible. In the meantime, she met a guy on eHarmony. Their first meeting was in a hotel room off the interstate. I insisted she give me the name of the hotel, her room number, and a phone call to make sure she was safe. Needless to say, their first meeting was a weekend-long love-fest of cosmic proportions.

Soon after, she quit her job. Her friend kicked her out of her house to make room for her son, who was starting school nearby and needed his bedroom back.

So she moved in with me while she sorted out all of her earthly possessions. She gave a lot away to her children. She sold some stuff. She donated some stuff. She gave me a shitload of plants. The rest she put in a storage unit and gave to her kids, trusting them to claim it once the contract expired. Then she purchased a one-way ticket to Missouri to meet her eHarmony guy.

They are somewhere in New Mexico hunting for Native American relics, living out of his conversion van. She is having the adventure of a lifetime.

Shortly before she purchased her ticket, I urged her to reconsider. She didn't know this guy. There were some things about him that made me uncomfortable, namely his adamant refusal to hear anything pertaining to her past with other men. It worried me. So I wrote her a long e-mail, telling her my misgivings with the disclaimer that she's a grown woman and could make her own choices, but that if something happened to her and I didn't share this, I would never forgive myself for not trying.

This man offered her the opportunity of a lifetime. She is 57 years old and has three kids, all full-grown.

And she said "YES!"

Last time I talked to her, she was happier than I think I have ever heard her.

So the wish for myself is to say yes with wild abandon when the opportunity of a lifetime presents itself. Will I be so brazen? So bold? So reckless?

I still worry about her. But I also admire her.